Ignore the ‘Nay Sayers’

Have you ever been around someone who is always negative?  I have.  It is very difficult to remain in their presence, and sometimes you don’t have a choice, there is no escape.

As long as humans exist there will always be negative people. It is important to teach ourselves how to drown out the negativity that will put a damper on all our efforts to succeed and attain our life’s goals. We have to learn to cancel that noise of negativity.

Years ago I worked with Mary Kay Ash and Mary Kay Cosmetics.  Now, there was a positive individual.  I learned a great deal from her and my time with Mary Kay changed my life forever.  Many times ‘positive’ people are thought to not have their feet on the ground.  But,she was also a realist and definitely was well anchored..  I remember traveling on a bus from the hotel in Dallas to the Mary Kay offices.  We were there for an entire week and we were tired.  Many of us would rather be in bed sleeping.  Her advice to us — ‘You are only here for a week; you have the rest of your lives to sleep in.”

So, back to the negativity.  As we set out to make something of our lives, there will always be people telling you that you are not intelligent enough, that you lack sufficient money, connections or resources, or something else.


Negativity may also come from within us. Our minds can nurture and cultivate negativity, causing us to doubt our self worth, talent and capacity to succeed. Surrounding ourselves with negativity multiplies the pain of failing. The fear of failing may hold us back from cutting a path to success.  However, there is also the very real fear of success that holds some of us back.

How can we learn to ignore the negativity and break through our self-imposed glass ceilings?  Let’s look at a few ideas.

First step:  Understanding the ‘Why’

One of the things we have been asked to do lately is share our ‘why’.  What does that mean?  In order to be successful at whatever it is we are doing, and to let the negativity roll off of us, we must have a strong reason for being involved.  It has to be ‘big’.  A little reason won’t keep you strong when the going gets tough.  With a sufficiently strong ‘why’, you will be very hard to stop and ultimately the nay-sayers will give up.

Take the time now to truly ponder ‘why’ you want to do what you do.  What is in it for you?  Is it the joy of helping someone?  Is it the money?  Is it your family and what this can do for them?  There are many possibilities for your why.  Find yours and it will become your anchor when times get touch.  If it is deap-seated enough, it will help propel you in your life’s pursuits.

No matter how much negativity is around you, the most important thing is to focus on why you want something or have a certain goal. If you lack strong reasons for having certain goals, it will be difficult to overlook negativity or even prevail over past pain and failure. If your ‘why’ is sufficiently strong you will be hard to stop. Work out the reason you desire something and if it has a deep-seated meaning to you, this will help propel you in your life’s pursuits.

Second step:  Learn to specify the “When”

The second step in the quest to ignoring negativity is associating specific and exact dates to the achievement of your goals. After stating and writing your goals, next to this set a date for achieving them. For example if you want to lose weight, write how much, why and the specific date when you will have done it. By specifying the date, you will see it each day and it will be a reminder of what needs to be done even in the midst of failure and negativity.

Third step:  Know how to cancel the noise

The first step in the process of canceling both the inside and outside noise is understanding that negativity will always be around you or buried deep in your mind.
Secondly, identify a source of inspiration-for example Thomas Edison had to go through 10,000 bulbs before finally getting the first light bulb right. J.K Rowling went through 7 years of toil and desperation before getting Harry Potter published. Study and research whoever you decide will be your inspiration. Read about the people who told them they would not succeed. Bear in mind that failure is deeply embedded in life and that if you have strong enough reasons, the reward is worth risking for.

Fourth step:  Persistence is the only path

The final step in ignoring negativity and achieving your goals is persistence. Remember that attaining goals cannot be done by following the path of least resistance. Understand that you will have to dig in your heels and grind out results. You will face negativity but with persistence you will inch closer and closer to your objectives so long as you keep going and not giving up. You can accomplish whatever you want in life by never giving up on your dreams and having an audacious spirit. Remember that nothing worthwhile comes easily.

Have an awesome day!



  1. This is so spot on. Just ignore the nay sayers and focus on the positive side. Everything else will follow.
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