A Simple Guide To Realizing Your Dreams
We all have dreams, and in particular in regards to our marriage and our families. Often times, circumstances may occur that make it difficult for us to figure out how we can make those dreams a reality.
I see so many people give up on their dreams, and their relationships, because they haven’t seen their dreams come to pass and they don’t know how to bring them to pass. Or they get a divorce because the marriage is having some ‘hiccups’ and they don’t know how to move past it. They don’t realize that marriage is work. Not the drudgery kind of work, but work still the same. This is one of the main reasons I coach, and specialize in relationship coaching. I want people to reconnect with their dreams, help them devise a plan to accomplish them, and then hold their hand and hold them accountable as they work their way to accomplishing them. It does require patience as sometimes things don’t go as smoothly as you had hoped. Sometimes you have to stop and regroup in order to get around a particularly difficult passage in your life. I won’t tell you that you can make every dream become a reality, but I will tell you that you need to work at making your important dreams a reality.
Making Your Dreams a Reality
You can’t force your dreams to happen, but with proper planning (sometimes some coaching as well), you can take steps to see them come to fruition. For example, in the case of your marriage, you may need to go through an assessment process to determine what the issues are. You may need to hire a relationship coach that can guide you and coach you to find resolution to the issues. You may even want to attend a marriage class or retreat to learn more about how to achieve the marriage of your dreams. The bottom line is you must plan and work toward what you want.
The same is true for most of your dreams. If you want to have a family, write a successful book, help others, move to another state, or anything else that interests you, you must make a plan and stick to the plan. Even if you try and fail, keep trying. Your dreams have value. Keep moving toward them, even if you face setbacks and challenges.
Visualizing and Planning for Your Dreams
In addition to getting clear on what your dream for your marriage is, then physically working toward your dreams, mental preparation is important. That means you need to keep visualizing and dreaming. Keeping a gratitude journal enhances your ability to see your mate through more loving eyes and treat them from a place of love and respect.
Be patient, hold on to what you believe in and what you want to see happen in your life. Use the power of positive thinking in order to see your dream coming to fruition.
Try these techniques:
- Make a vision board, with your spouse if at all possible, where you can pin or glue symbols of what you want to see realized.
- Write down your dreams of what you want in your marriage to keep them fresh in your mind.
- Keep a journal of what you’ve done toward realizing your dreams each day or each week.
- Remember to enjoy and respect the present moment. Then you’ll be well practiced when your dreams do come to pass!
- Talk with others who share your goals and dreams to stay encouraged and excited.
Many successful people focus on positive affirmations and meditation to help them see and realize their dreams. Think about what it is you truly want in your marriage. Then write a positive, present tense, statement that describes the dream as though you have already accomplished it. For example, “I am happy in my marriage.” Not “I want to be happy in my marriage”. Meditation is another way to still your mind so that you can focus more clearly on your goals. By meditating on what you really want and how you’re going to get it, you may come up with solutions that you would otherwise not have thought about. Meditation gives your mind some quiet, peaceful time to work behind the scenes.
Positive affirmations also help keep your spirits up and keep you moving toward your goal, even when you don’t really see a way. Just because the way to your dream doesn’t seem obvious to you just now, that doesn’t mean there isn’t a way. Something could change in the blink of an eye. Suddenly, you’ll be able to see how and when your dream will be realized. If you will write your affirmations and then say them about 30 minutes before going to bed at night, it allows your mind to work, while you are sleeping, on helping you fulfill those affirmations.
If you hold tight to your goals, you’ll find it easier to stay on the right track. Training yourself to observe progress can be important, too. This will help keep you motivated. Regardless of what your dreams are – however big or small they may be – you can usher them in to your life!
Have an amazing day!
Be sure to join our 30 Day Marriage Gratitude Journal challenge which starts on Monday. All you need to do is commit to the challenge, keep a Marriage Gratitude Journal, write in it every day at least one thing you are thankful for in your marriage or something you are thankful for in your spouse. Join our Facebook group, 30 Day Marriage Journal Challenge.